Posted by: Jim E | April 19, 2018

All Things Jeremy…Rose Bush…Picture Albums…Things Tucked In Closets…Memories…

Maybe I should be saying sorry for writing another post that deals with Jeremy…but on the other hand, things just keep coming up…and also, everyday we live, he somehow is a part of it…everything reminds us of him…where we go shopping, if we go out to eat, what we prepare at home…it doesn’t really matter, he was with us all his life, 47 years, and we are drenched with his memories…it feels good…he still makes me smile when I think of him…so it’s all good, I guess…

Jeremy's one year visit, mom and dad 2

Last year when Jess and Jennifer where here, they gave us a miniature rose…I thought right away to plant it at Jeremy’s cemetery…he is buried in a mausoleum so the only place that came to mind was behind the building, just outside the “mowed” grass…I thought we could do it there…most would think it should be near the building…but something in me thought…you know, Jeremy would want it “planted”, just outside the grounds, but seen from his grave site…I agreed!!!…

Jeremy's rose from Jess and Jennifer

But after we took it home and Judie began to think about it…she wanted it right outside her window by her desk, so she could watch it grow and bloom…so plan changed…we planted it right where she wanted it…this picture is from last year…it had many blooms on it…and this year it is growing larger and with four buds on it already…but what about Jeremy and my plan for his cemetery you ask…I made it known that we would still do that…well, a week ago or so, Marisa bought a rose bush to plant and Jared, Marisa, Judie and I went down to the cemetery to plant the rose bush…we chose a spot that as you walk down the sidewalk toward Jeremy’s grave site, if you look straight ahead…

Okay, in your minds eye now…look straight ahead…back, way back of the mowed grass…if you look close, Jared “weed whacked” a small clear spot…see it, yup, that’s it right there…he dug up the ground and planted it right there…I know you can see it…and when you come again, it will be growing, even more green than now…and maybe a red rose or two…Jeremy would love that you see what we see…and I have two more picture of us there…Jared is watering the rose bush…and there is a “selfie” of the four of us and…if you look close, you can see the rose bush…right there…between us…what a great day…Hey Jeremy, we done good…finally got our dream in place…planting done…rose bush can start blooming…what a great day…

We’ve been going though “all things Jeremy”…I should say, Judie is going through all things Jeremy…Heaven’s, she knows where those things are…on shelves in closets, in albums…so every once in a while she will put one of those things in front of me…when I see him, really look at him in a picture…it hits me, I really miss him, and think of something to write about him…that is good for me, maybe not so good for you…

Like, Judie showed me some pictures of family, back a few years…well, many years…we must have gone to a portrait place to have it done…and there is all our family at the time…Jared and Marisa must have been married…but then again they look like they are in high school…we forget how young we once were…but anyway, there was Jay, Jared and Marisa, Jess and Jeremy…and Judie and I…heavens, we look like we were in high school!!!…

Jeremy and family before surgery

But there we all were…and there is Jeremy, this was before he had his major jaw surgery with Dr. Keller, at Mayo Clinic…I will show you the miracle of that surgery, if I can find a picture…Jeremy stood proud, as he always was, his teeth protruding…but there he was in all his glory, proud to be Jeremy…and all of us, honored for him to be part of our family…the picture I will add is one that Judie put together to show the difference jaw surgery made for Jeremy…

Jeremy before and after surgery in the 90's 2

I can remember back when Jeremy was in high school…hey, by the way, see that hand on Jeremy’s shoulder in the first two pictures???…my hand…yup, hard to think of all that…tears in my eyes…but that was a normal pose for us…me with my hand on him…okay, back to the story…he was the basketball manager for the team in high school…I mean, he was “in charge”…he took that job seriously, he served with pride for 7 years…

So, one game night he was running here and there taking care of the coaches and team…of course he was different…short, noticeably different in looks and so on, but did a great job…when the game was over, a teacher that I knew from the other school came up to me…she asked me if I knew the young manager, and described him…I immediately told her, it was my reaction when anyone wondered about Jeremy…I said, with pride, “He’s my son.”…and we talked about Jeremy for few minutes, and how she thought how great he did his job…Jeremy stood out…and not only because of his looks, but because of his character…and up to the time he died, he never wavered from his unusual courage and character…

Judie and I miss him…he brought to our home, humor and humility…strength of purpose…love of God and love of family…he knew right from wrong instinctively…and loved life…

Jeremy, Mom and Dad

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  1. Wow . . . what a flood of memories came to me as I read through Jim’s ramblings regarding Jeremy (I don’t mean that disrespectfully at all!) . . . Although I was only able to interact with him for a short time – from summer 1973 to about spring 1976 – what a blessing he was to me . . . we called each other buddies.” I remember fooling around with him on the couch as Judi got Sunday dinner ready . . . and him getting to ride to church with me in my “Pinto.” Being able to come home on weekends from college to my “other family” was special . . . and, of course, Jeremy made it all the more so! From what Jim wrote, I would have loved to have been at the Cub Foods banquet when Jeremy was honored for his 10 years of service. What a blessing Jeremy had in such a wonderful family . . . thanks for the privilege – even so long ago – to let me be a small part of that wonderful family!


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