Posted by: Jim E | March 2, 2018

With Jeremy, I Remember Little Things…And, “A Time To Be Born And A Time Die”…

There is no doubt, I am wrapped up in little things…like most people, most of those things are memories…and those memories are usually tied to people we love or are close to…so it is with Skippy peanut butter…stay with me now…almost everyday I have peanut butter on toast in the morning…when I get out the peanut butter, I know it is Skippy, because that it the kind I buy…you may say, “Have you lost your mind?”…no…it reminds me of my Mom…she worked for Skippy during WWII…it’s a little thing…but thinking about my Mom is a good thing for me…she was one of a kind, I still love her…Skippy, just a little thing, helps me to remember how wonderful she was…

And with Jeremy, there are so many little things, so many memories…all tied up with who he was…he, too, was special, a wonderful son, my best friend…who had a wonderful life…full of great experiences…and Judie and I shared in all of them…47 years of memories, little things all tied up in Jeremy’s life…

Ecclesiastes 3

Ecclesiastes 3:1-14, starts with verse 1: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:”…and then for verses 2-8, the preacher gives a list of those things, “a time to be born and a time to die,”…to plant and to uproot…to kill and to heal…to tear down and to build…to weep and to laugh…to mourn and to dance…to scatter stones and to gather them…to embrace and to refrain from embracing…to search and to give up…to keep and to throw away…to tear and to mend…to be silent and to speak…to love and to hate…a time for war and for peace…

Ecclesiastes beautiful in its time

And verse 11, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart;”…this it what we have been doing for almost a year…celebrating Jeremy’s life, because God has made everything beautiful in its time…and the fact that eternity has been placed in all our hearts…we celebrate Jeremy’s Home-going, as well…let me in the next few minutes share what we have come to understand, that Jeremy had a wonderful life, full of all the things he was suppose to experience…and we were here to make sure they happened…

Now I will not pretend to put everything down on paper…but how about a taste of Jeremy’s life…some of the things he loved and made him what he was…

Did I ever tell you Jeremy had a dog?…yup, he did…Muffin was his name, a black and white Shih Tzu…he was his dog, not my dog, not Judie dog…Muff was Jeremy’s dog…they slept together, sat together, did everything together…just before Jeremy came home from work, Muffin would be waiting for him…by the door or if outside he would lay on the grass-covered little hill by the tree, watching down the street waiting for his truck to come into view…Muffin would see it and get excited to see Jeremy…Jeremy would honk the horn…Jeremy would come out put down his lunch bucket and stuff…and he and Muffin would, as they say here in the South, “love on” one another…it was a special relationship…

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When Muffin was first with us, he went outside and got lost…lots of sadness…but on that one Thanksgiving Day…as I looked out the kitchen window…I saw a black and white thing bobbing out in the field behind our house…”There’s Muffin”, I yelled…Jess ran out in the field and returned him to Jeremy…I will add a picture of that time, that my Mom took…as I remember, the “preacher” said, a time to search and a time to give up…the lost was found…Jeremy had 12 years of “lovin’ on” Muffin…and visa versa…

Jeremy loved to work, around the house, at school, at church, job program, or at his permanent job…he was, as my Dad used to say, “A workin’ fool”…he loved the responsibility…love pleasing his boss…committed to doing a good job…so when an opportunity came to be a manager of his brothers basketball team…he was on board…he was a basketball manager for 7 years…all the way to the State Tournament his senior year…I can’t say for sure, but all the team loved Jeremy, because of the kind of person he was…he never forgot them…the coaches, really all the people around the program knew and respected Jeremy…I don’t think he ever let them down…he saw it as a chance to serve…and they honored him, when they won the Regional Tournament, and asked him to make the “first cut” in cutting down the net…I will add a picture… 

Jeremy makes the first cut at regions064

Little things, simple gifts…they all flood my memories…like the year Jeremy got to see the Pacific and Atlantic Oceans…he got a free trip to Disneyland because people just thought he should go…one year when the doctors thought he would not make it but a few months or weeks, he got over 250 birthday cards in the mail…but he fooled everyone and lived the full life he was given…

He got to see Florida, and Disney World, Epcot and so on…and go with Jess, the brother who he grew up with…saw the Space Shuttle lift-off to the moon…spent time in the Rocky Mountains, Devil’s Tower, saw Mount Rushmore, Crazy Horse, the Badlands (both in North and South Dakota)…saw the outdoor Medora Musical at Theodore Roosevelt National Park (he even ran the lights that night)…how he got inside that booth and got to do that, I will never know…but on the other hand, I do know…he was a special person…

Medora Musical, Medora, North Dakota

Jeremy loved Branson, Missouri…he especially loved the Presleys Jubilee…he, as he did with everyone he loved, he went right up and talked to them like old friends…and they didn’t know any better than to believe he WAS an old friend…Oh, and Jeremy loved Pasties…we traveled many time to Michigan going the Northern route…the UP (Upper Peninsula) is famous for Pasties…and in particular Lehtos Pasties near the Mackinaw Bridge…and Mackinaw Island…he just loved to travel…any road trip, look around, he was already in the car…

Mackinac Bridge

And how about the Minnesota State Fair…most people don’t “get it”…what is so great about the State Fair…there is no way to explain it, without going…Jeremy loved the food there…Footlong hotdogs, and on and on…just being there…Machinery Hill, with all the tractors…and then The Farm in Illinois, how he loved The Farm…fishing in the pond…

Speaking of fishing…we fished for 20 years or so together…we went to the Boat Show in Minneapolis…and we came home with a fishing boat…he bragged to his Mom…he couldn’t wait to tell her…”Dad says this is my college tuition.”…and we enjoyed his “college” for all those years…and yes, he did “out-fish me”…

I’ve got to stop…but there are a myriad of memories…Judie and I share them all the time…Jeremy was one of our great gifts in this life…and now in the last years of our life, we will share the wonderful memories we have…as we get close to the end of our first year without Jeremy…there is still profound sadness but an effervescent joy in all memories we are able to remember and share…

As I left Baptist Hospital where Jeremy was taken care of and ultimately died…I remember one of the times I walked into the hospital…I was weary and probably a little down…Jeremy was in one of the rooms there…we really didn’t know what was in the future…but I looked down at the sidewalk…and there were two verses inscribed there…after all these years…the Bible is still comforting to me…

Jeremy Baptist Hospital sidewalk verse August 2016 1Jeremy Baptist Hospital sidewalk verse August 2016


Responses

  1. Hi Jim, thanks for another wonderful story about Jeremy. I love reading them! I don’t know if you remember Don Watson aka Major from I’m just walking with Matt Green. Don and I became good friends through Matt Greens walking. We kept in touch with each other through Facebook.. Anyway he past away on Tuesday not sure if you kept in touch with Don or not. Just thought I let you know.

    Saundra  Sent from Yahoo Mail for iPad

    • Saun…thanks for the information…I didn’t keep in touch with Don Watson…there were a few that were “hip-deep” in following Matt on his trip…like us…and I guess Don too…I imagine by your aka for him he used Major to sign-off…but still I can’t remember…old age I guess…there were so many that followed Matt on that trip…the “Ohio” group is who I mostly remember…still in contact with some of those…including you, I guess…Sorry to hear of his passing…there is a connection from Matt’s trip that was unusual between a lot of us…you, because of your teaching handicapped kids…you are still a hero to me…our Jeremy was handicapped, so there was an immediate connection…thanks again for the information, I appreciate it…Jim E

  2. Great memories and great ways to remember an awesome guy. What a treasure. Ruth

    • Ruth…coming up on one year…March 19th…we will celebrate his life in special ways that day…thanks Jim E


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